I love it when my husband plays with my clit-especially when he's able to find it. He's stopped doing it, however, because he's a follower of your dictum, "If you can't say it, you can't do it." ...And darned, if he can't find the words to describe what he's doing. When I asked him why, he simply grinned and said, "I just can't put my finger on it." Is that some kind of joke or something?

Humor is in the eye of the beholder, and your husband seems to have the right feel for the subject. In a more serious vein, I offer him, "Tickle me Elmo." Or "Touch and Glow." If that doesn't suit his and your fancy, I suggest taking up another recreational activity, such as anal sex where the object under consideration is more easily visible and accessible, and hence more easily named.